Forgiveness is something that the Bible commands us to do. But there are also benefits that come with it, such as healing, deliverance, peace, and joy. As the Lord has forgiven us, we must also forgive others. Let's be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as Christ God has forgiven us, as stated in Ephesians 4:32.

One cannot work for forgiveness and, therefore, can not create conditions to forgive others.

If you want God to heal you, you must forgive those who wronged you. Unforgiveness is a sin. Sin separates you from God. Anything that separates you from God hinders your breakthrough.

How to practice forgiveness:

Remember, forgiveness is a choice, so you just have to forgive. You might still feel the pain of the hurt inflicted. However, you are choosing not to be angry about it.

Lets practice.

First, take a moment and think about all the times someone transgressed against you.

Allow yourself to feel all the pain associated with the offense. Now, bring them to the surface of your heart so you can address them. Was it rape, physical abuse, or a parent that neglected you or disappeared from your life? Maybe it's sibling rivalry or bullying at school or work. Was it church hurt or in-laws that disliked you? It doesn’t matter who or what it was. You have to free yourself from the burden of unforgiveness.

After you have forgiven those persons, you can now stand before God with your request, and whatever you ask, He will grant it according to His will. Remember, the same measure you (for)give is the same measure God will (For)give you.

Name the person. It is most likely someone you trusted who had access to or authority over you. Maybe it’s your spouse or an ex.

Submit to God- First, to His holy scriptures as they teach. God says, “If my words abide in you, you will do what it says.”
Knowing what the word of God says is imperative so you can practice it. (Psalm 119:11).

Remember, forgiving those who hurt you is a command. “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” (Mark 11:25

If you want God’s forgiveness, you must forgive.

Forgiveness is a choice: To forgive others regardless of how we feel. It depends not on our emotions but on our decision to release the hurt and resentment. According to God's Word, forgiveness is necessary to receive His forgiveness. The Bible states, "If you don't forgive others, God won't forgive you." This highlights the importance God places on forgiveness. Holding onto grudges only causes harm, which is why God instructs us to forgive as a fundamental rule for our own benefit.

Affirm it audibly in the atmosphere. Say: Lord, I forgive (name the person). It might be helpful to find a witness who can keep you accountable. For instance, someone who knows about the transgression. Ask that person to keep you accountable. They will remind you anytime the feeling of anger or resentment tries to raise its ugly head because it will resurface. When it does, repeat the words “I forgive you (Name of person),” or Lord helps me to forgive and feel the pain but reject satan’s bait to be resentful and bitter again. Do not entertain the thoughts of the sin committed against you. Instead, acknowledge it and release it. Don’t try to block it because it will linger as a piece of object flowing down a river but obstructed by an immobile rock. However, if you allow it passage, it will wash away.

If possible, confront the perpetrator, especially if you desire to continue the relationship with them. That might help them know that you were hurting or how much it has affected you emotionally. Sometimes, you cannot address it; in such situations, you turn it over to someone who can. That might be the law, and that might might be God. However, your ultimate goal is to forgive so that you might be one with God and find peace in your heart.